So, I’m not sure if many people know this about me, but I love listening to Hip-hop, RnB, and Rap. It doesn’t matter what it is, I will more than likely give it a listen at least once. But also, I think in much of that music is loaded with material for me to think philosophically and theologically. Sometimes, I listen to music to get out of my head and, apart from Classical music, these genres have always helped me. It might be the beats and the rhythm. Either way, it doesn’t matter. And for some of you who are just shaking your head at me, I have a word for you. Tranquillo. No, I don’t agree with everything. I don’t agree with anyone most of the time.
But, I don’t want to get bogged down in that conversation. I’ve had this track on repeat for a few hours. I’m a huge fan of Chance The Rapper, and anytime he is on a track with anyone his verse usually kills, in my lowly opinion. Anyway, Chance’s verse makes me chuckle, but I like what he is getting at.
You be the momma, you be the daddy
Baby we could play house, I’ll change your addy
Or even change my palate and mess with salad
Put me in the picture, let’s change your avi, oh, oh, oh
Can’t even stunt I was sprung from the jump
Many of us growing up playing house at some point, I look at nieces playing house with their neighbors —the boys and girls. It is a funny moment because they argue and get into ridiculous conversations about what each one’s role is. When we get older, parents or elders tell us a relationship is nothing like playing house. But, many still play their relationship like it is a game of house. And, in some way it is, but a serious game of it. With that next line, we do a lot for the person we want to be with, i.e., we change —sometimes to our detriment or for the better.
Relationships are a crazy business. We might even try some things we never thought we would, like a salad. Any kind of relationship is an adventure, but a dating or marriage relationship is for sure an adventure. Then, if you find the right one, the whole picture changes. That person becomes a vital part of your life and what’s central is not just you, but the two of you together. I’ve always found this interesting how much a person’s life can shift in what seems like a moment. We sometimes have an assumption where everything is a huge process, which I agree with most of the time, but there are moments when something happens in an instant. So, Chance is right to say his last line in the block quote. But, at the end of the day, we all want to say that we are thankful for that other person to walk through life with. Or, as Jeremih sings:
You know it ain’t right if she ain’t by my side
With this crazy, crazy world
Thank God I’m with my girl